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Minute 991// Home & Away

 


TODAY'S MESSAGE IS DEDICATED
                          IN MEMORY OF
                 ABRAHAM BEN ROSA A'H
        BY EDDIE AND HELEN SHAMAH & FAMILY


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          The media know that sensational news sells. The exposé of a famous personality’s less-than-sterling behavior whets the appetite of a curious public. The electronic and print media rush to bring the latest revelations to the anxious masses, whose curiosity does not wane until a bigger story breaks and takes over the headlines. The people seek “reality”; they want to know what makes the successful, rich, or famous celebrity, tick.


Advances brought about by the age of technology, combined with a free-press mentality, has removed the romantic gloss from many a public figure. The persona presented to the public rarely represents the person who lives behind closed doors.


This dual-personality syndrome is not exclusive to the rich and famous. Most people behave quite differently in the privacy of their own homes than they do in public. The gentle administrator in the office may be the aggressive monster at home. The soft words used to convince and cajole an employee or co-worker may be replaced by angry, cruel shouts at a child or spouse. The polite, well-mannered synagogue member may be the sloppy, rude family member.


Why is it that we can be so nice to others—even strangers—and so cruel to those whom we should love the most? It is probably because at home we feel immune to the critical stares of a judgmental public. “When no one is watching, I can be myself” may be fine when referring to more casual attire or a sloppy hairdo, but it is not a license to transform from Dr. Jekyll into Mr. Hyde.


To help you measure your performance at home, think of the way you behave when away from home. Connecting the two “people” that make up the one “you” will refine and perfect the beast within, transforming it into the beauty you can become. Compare and improve your “home” and “away” personas.


 


CONSIDER THIS FOR A MINUTE


Life has not taken hold of you until you begin doing things that the average person considers impossible. (Avi Shulman, Life Coach and Author)




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